We live in a world that constantly urges us to move faster, look ahead, and keep going no matter what. But Scripture gives us a different message. Romans 12:15 reminds us: “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” This verse highlights an essential practice in the Christian walk: compassion.
What Does It Mean to Have a Compassionate Heart?
Sometimes, when we are faced with conflict overseas, disasters in another part of the country, or grief in a friend that we have never known first-hand we often don’t know what to do. Compassion gives us a starting point.
The word “compassion” literally means “to suffer with.” It’s the act of stepping into someone else’s pain and walking alongside them, not trying to fix it or offer quick solutions, but simply being present. As Christians, we are called to embody this deep, empathetic connection with those who are hurting.
When Jesus saw the crowds, He was “moved with compassion” (Matthew 9:36). Compassion isn’t just a feeling; it’s an action. It compels us to go beyond our comfort zones and be with others in their hardest moments.
Why Is Mourning with Others Important?
Mourning with others reflects the heart of God. It’s a way to share in the burdens of our brothers and sisters without pretending that we have all the answers. By providing them with love, comfort, and a reminder that they’re not alone. When we mourn with others, we reflect God’s love in a tangible way.
In a culture that often encourages us to avoid discomfort, this command can be counter cultural. But Jesus didn’t shy away from grief; he wept when his friend Lazarus died, even though Jesus had the authority to raise Lazarus from the dead (John 11:35). Jesus didn’t dismiss the pain around Him. Instead, He stepped into it, fully present. Notice, too that Jesus didn’t immediately raise Lazarus. He allowed the grief felt by others to wash over him. Only then, on the same emotional plane, did Jesus step in to offer what he could for help. He suffered before her served.
Practical Ways to Mourn with Those Who Mourn
Knowing how to mourn with others can sometimes feel intimidating. Here are a few actionable ways to practice compassion in this area:
- Listen Without Fixing
Often, those who are mourning don’t need solutions right way. Instead, they need a compassionate ear, a friend. Take time to listen, without feeling the need to offer advice or fix the problem. Be a silent, supportive presence.
- Show Up Physically or Emotionally
Your physical presence speaks volumes. If you can’t be there in person, reach out through a phone call or even a heartfelt message. Let them know you are with them in their grief.
- Acknowledge the Pain
Avoid clichés like, “Everything happens for a reason,” or “They’re in a better place now.” Instead, acknowledge the person’s pain with genuine empathy: “I’m so sorry for your loss” or “I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here.”
- Pray With and For Them
Prayer is powerful. Offer to pray with the person if they are open to it and keep them in your prayers privately. Ask for God’s comfort, peace, and strength to surround them.
- Serve in Small, Meaningful Ways
Grief can make everyday tasks overwhelming. Offer practical help, like delivering a meal, babysitting, or running errands. Even small acts of service can provide immense relief and show that you care.
- Follow Up
Grief doesn’t disappear after a few days or weeks. Mark your calendar to check in on the person regularly. Your ongoing support will mean a lot as they continue to process their loss.
Compassion Is a Lifestyle
Mourning with those who mourn isn’t a one-time event—it’s a lifestyle of compassion. It’s about being sensitive to the needs of those around us and taking steps, however small, to share in their suffering. As you develop this practice, you’ll find that your own heart grows in empathy and love, reflecting more and more of Jesus’ heart.
A Compassionate Heart, One Day at a Time
As you go through your day-to-day life, look for opportunities to engage with compassion. Who around you is hurting? Where can you step in and offer your presence? Don’t be afraid to sit in the discomfort of someone else’s pain. That’s where true compassion is born.
In a world that often feels disconnected, mourning with those who mourn allows us to embody the love of Christ. Let’s commit to being people who “suffer with”—who are there in the messy, difficult moments, just as Jesus is always there for us.
By Brandon Gilliam
